Healing Walls?
Explore the reality of setting boundaries in our relationships that promote emotional health and well-being.
In this blog, we will respond to the question, "Are walls a healthy way to protect ourselves?"
In the book Boundaries, Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend explain that walls are not a healthy tool to use in our relationships. Instead of walls, they speak of fences:
Cloud & Townsend explain that the goal is to "keep things that will nurture us inside our fences and keep things that will harm us outside." (p.33) Though hurtful circumstances might cause us to build solid walls, Cloud & Townsend spoke of "fences." They continue, "Sometimes, we have bad on the inside and good on the outside. In these instances, we need to be able to open up our boundaries to let the good in and the bad out. In other words, our fences need gates in them." (p.34)
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Reference:
Boundaries, Dr. Henry Could & Dr. John Townsend, Copyright 1992, Zondervan, 3900 Sparks Dr., SE, Grand Rapids, Michigan 29546, ISBN 978-0-310-24745-6 (softcover) First printing March 2002

